Things People with Depression Don’t Admit to Their Friends

Depression is a mental health disorder that includes a persistent feeling of sadness or loss of interest. It can lead to a wide range of physical and behavioural symptoms. The symptoms include a change in sleep patterns, energy levels, appetite, concentration, daily behaviour or self-esteem. People with depression more often than not need support from friends and family members. But at the same time, depressed people do not always reveal what they are going through. Here are some things that these people do not admit to friends and family:

 

• They feel hurt every day. As a result, they don’t respond to people and stay disconnected. This is not because they wish to do it. It is because getting hurt and wearing a fake smile on the face every day is exhausting. It takes up all the positive energy. Therefore, they find staying isolated as a better option.
• Although they need someone to listen to them or help them, they hate admitting it. To overcome the depressing episodes, they need their loved ones with them. No matter whatever their friend or family member is engaged in, their presence means a lot to them.
• They want the support of their near and dear ones during bad times. They expect their closed ones not to get disappointed in case they succumb to the darkness after so many days. They expect people not to grow impatient.
• They pretend to be strong enough and don’t admit that they need help. It is felt by them that seeking help and support from others can be a burden on the latter.
• It is a part of their phase that for some days they don’t feel to leave their bed or take a shower. They don’t even wish to change clothes or brush hair. It is not due to laziness. It is because they don’t want to be embarrassed because of the inability to do things that are simple and mundane for others.  
• They feel like staying in bed all the time. Going to work or performing routine activities seems to be a big challenge for them.
• Depression makes them feel as if they are ruining their relationships. They assume that their friends just say that they are always there but don’t mean their words. Also, they refrain to reach their friends because of the ill-thought that they are a burden for them.
• They do not express but they need someone to hold their hands and get over the tough time.  Just being there shows a lot. 
• They might often cancel plans with an excuse like having a doctor’s appointment, a slip of the mind or other tasks. This is because they can’t face going outside and having to function.
• They wish to gain strength to accept and admit the real brutality so that they can deal with the phase of depression alone.
• The individual may constantly text his closed ones saying that he or she needs you. This may occur for several months and the person may suddenly disappear. But, once initiated they expect you to respond and be there for them.
• They might keep themselves away from others thinking that they don’t want to bother you. As a consequence, they carry on alone waiting for the next moment of distraction.
• They struggle with the feeling that they are hurting others and may feel trapped inside with these thoughts. They may also take your words of encouragement, positivity, and advice negatively. 
• The fact that their closed ones have helped them overcome depressive thoughts and saving their lives makes them feel in debt forever. The fear of sharing bad depression and suicidal thoughts may sometimes make them hide it.
• The dark thoughts of getting hospitalized and undergoing residential treatment creep in their minds. They restrict themselves to share all this with friends with a fear to lose them.              
• They can’t express true feelings to their friends and relatives that how soothing it is to share and spend time with them. They can’t tell how difficult it is to deal with those negative thoughts, leading a sloth-like life.  
• They lie a lot. If someone asks them, how are they feeling or is everything good they simply say that they are tired. They do not express how physically and mentally exhausted they are.
• Having a fear that people will make jokes about depression or may doubt that whether he or she is being honest or not, the patients prefer to stay disconnected from other people. 
• The patients of depression may sometimes have suicidal thoughts. But, they do not share these feelings with others with a fear that people might judge the individual based on this.